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What have you lost by being in a bad relationship?

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What is it about individuals that we are scared to be alone?

Why do we stay with  a significant other, spouse, etc.. when we know he or she is not good for us?

So I ask this question, what have you lost?

Self respect?

Strength of Character?


The ability to live your life alone is not scary. In fact, it can be quite liberating and freeing. Individuals have lost the strength of self— and would rather stay in a relationship that is destructive, hurtful, and overall meaningless.  The current trend is not to be alone. This “stigma” states to all that you are worth someones time, someones attention, and that someone wants to be with you.  The good part is that you are not alone.

The bad part?

You are not individual enough to make your own decisions. Not individual enough to think and make decisions based on what you need and what you want. 

Now, stating this doesn’t mean that a person should be alone. I believe the right time, the right place, and the right person are worth waiting for. The root problem is we settle for whats right in front of us.

This is what takes away our self respect… albeit small increments at a time but ultimately individuals who do not wait for “the one” lose that respect for themselves.


I am the person who gives excellent advice. Yes, I am that good! I am a writer, a mom, a Nana (yes hard to believe I know!), a professional, educated, and has the ability to look at anything objectively. I write about everything and anything. I do this because there are many facets in my life. I am also a Coffee Lover and that alone makes me awesome. ~Me

5 thoughts on “What have you lost by being in a bad relationship?

  1. Ah Spring! Ya know…the hehe’s come out to mate this time of year. In the warm spring evening you can hear their mating call being carried on en evenings spring breeze, “hehe…hehe….hehe…” Perfect time of the year to hunt ’em. No license needed.

  2. Well I hear that they are hard to catch though and sometimes fight. You have to be careful around them! I believe only new DNA could help them. That’s my opinion and I am sticking to it!!

  3. What I lost….13 years. I lost what I thought was a good and honest friend, playmate, sub, slave, partner. I lost confidence and strength. Self respect – hell yes! I lost innocence. I lost self esteem. I lost hope and dreams. I lost belief. I gained visions into a dark side of me which I had never allowed light. I gained bitterness…and a fist – wonder where that came from, hmm?

    Mostly what I lost was only real to me, I was gullible enough to believe in him and the things he said and promised….truly believe. I believed every excuse and made excuses for him. I accepted blame for things, which were not my imagination at all.

    This was and sadly is “the one” for me. I gained knowledge that I could love and feel deeply. I just lost.

    1. Self awareness is not a bad thing. In fact, we are the people we are today because of our experiences. Its how a person goes forward that matters. 🙂

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