Have you ever wanted to date someone you know from work? Got a secret crush on a coworker? Do you ever fantasize about what it would be like to “hook up” with a coworker? Yes, yes, I know, it’s just plain hard to resist certain people. What if you now have issues with your boss because you could not resist those big boss blue eyes or the special way he or she gives you “extra” attention? Those of you who have dated in the workplace know what I am talking about. My second husband was someone I had met in the workplace.
The best advise in these circumstances is not to get involved. The reason is pure and simple. If you start dating someone you work with, and if this person is your boss, this will indeed cause issues in the work environment and potential termination at some point. If this person is merely a coworker (peer) than he or she can make your work environment a “living hell” just depending on how the affair ended.
I dated a physician and asked him if he had ever got involved with a nurse or an aide. He stated to me “Are you kidding me? No! I would never date someone I worked directly with as if the relationship “went south” that person could ruin my reputation and make working with them very difficult. Plus, patient care could be affected.” I completely understood this and agreed that dating or seeing someone you work with could impact your position and work environment.
But what about working with someone who you know is “the one”? The “one” you have been waiting for all your life and just can’t live without? I ended up marrying my workplace romance even though it ultimately ended in divorce. Plus you should know my ex husband did the right thing and left the workplace we both worked at; so if you are going to get involved with someone at work, one or the other will need to consider leaving.
Main Point & Best Advice:
Why would you get involved in the first place? In this new economy why would anyone take the chance of losing his or her job? You know who you are, but you better think long and hard about what you’re doing and IF you can live with the consequences. And for those of you that want a secret affair (sex) and nothing more…well all I have to say is I hope the sex is worth the price of losing your position. You have no one to blame but yourself.