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Are you “loose” or “tight”?


Ladies we are going to dispel the myth now! Vaginal tightness is a hot topic for both sexes. No one dare discuss this topic even in long-term relationships. Women don’t even discuss this subject with good female friends.  We worry that after having one child let alone 2 or 3 that the vagina would be ‘loose’ and never tight again. Men worry that once a woman has children she  cannot please a man. Especially for you single moms or moms who have more than one child.

Vaginal looseness is an issue that can affect women who have never had children and those that have had one or more kids. Women who have never had children can be affected by vaginal looseness by simply growing older. Why is this you may ask? Well as a woman ages the vaginal walls loosen over time. This is more prominent in women over the age of 40. Younger women with no children, remain ‘tight’ during their younger years until the muscles start to naturally ‘loosen’.

What about women who have one or more kids?

Per an article from Michael Castleman, see link below, Mr. Castleman stated, “The vagina stretches a great deal during childbirth, like an accordion opened all the way. Postpartum does it re-tighten completely? Yes, usually, at least in young women, that is, women in their late teens and early twenties. Within six months after delivery, the typical young woman’s vagina feels pretty much how it was before she gave birth.”(1.)

What the article is saying is a younger woman’s vagina go back to its original tightness better than an older woman’s. But what about the woman who decides to wait and have children later in life? One word ladies; Kegals. Doing Kegal exercises daily help to strengthen the vaginal muscles and keep the vagina tighter. It is recommended that Kegals be done after having a child for at least 4 weeks after giving birth.

Kegals are easy for a woman to do and can be performed just about anywhere. Try it now while you’re sitting reading this blog. Just focus on what it feels like to stop the flow of pee. Hold this position for about 10 seconds and then release. Do this a total of 10X’s/3X’s per day for 4 weeks and you will notice your vagina is tighter and you have better control of your peeing.

Bottom Line:

I know Kegals work as after having my only child when I was 21yrs old, I started doing Kegals and have never stopped. I am now 44 yrs old and have never had a man complain about ‘looseness’. In fact, it’s usually the opposite.

I am being transparent here because sexuality is something beautiful and a woman should never feel un-confident about her vagina especially after having 1 or more children. No one is the same and we all come in different shapes, sizes, colors, etc. Sometimes a man may think a woman is ‘loose’ because his penis is smaller than the average male. When this is the case, there are ways to help a man feel the tightness in a woman as well as keeping a woman confident in her ability to please her man.

I provided another link (2.) that has some suggestions about different positions to help with the vaginal tightness feeling during sex.




I am the person who gives excellent advice. Yes, I am that good! I am a writer, a mom, a Nana (yes hard to believe I know!), a professional, educated, and has the ability to look at anything objectively. I write about everything and anything. I do this because there are many facets in my life. I am also a Coffee Lover and that alone makes me awesome. ~Me

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