There is a distorted version of beauty that not only destroys a person’s confidence but can actually destroy a person’s perception of themselves. This is so emotionally damaging to women and also to men. Why do Americans in peticular, have an ideal version of what beauty is or isn’t? I used to think I was just plain or not pretty, because I did not fit the standard image of what society thought I should be weight wise. For years, I have struggled with my weight; but this is only an outside image or the first impression of who I really am. The real beauty of me is within.
What is the ideal version of beauty? Good question eh? I asked random men what their version of beauty is and these are some of the answers I received: The ideal version of beauty is someone who is attractive physically, (no surprise there) the eyes, the smile, intelligent, giving, kind, loving, generous, and caring. Some went on to say, personality, the heart, honesty, the hair, the hands, and a willingness to assist her man.
From a womans perspective, men are a determining factor in making a woman feel beautiful. Rejection, unfaithfulness, and disloyalty from a man makes women feel like we are not pretty, skinny, or intelligent enough. Or maybe our hair is not long or short enough, or maybe we are so hurt that the personality keeps us from being loving, generous, or kind? Or maybe, and this is the crutch, we are too fat or obese or as some of you guys put it, “overly large”. Yep, this is mainly physical for guys, men cannot help this as they are visual creatures. But guess what guys, beauty fades.
From a man’s perspective, rejection from a woman can make a man feel less confident in future dating or relationship endeavors or less bold in asking a “pretty” lady out. This destroys a man self-confidence. Do you see the connection?
Why is it that men and women can’t simply see the best in each other?
Emotional health is very important to how we project ourselves to others. Because emotional health is so important, a person has to get beyond what society deems as “beautiful”. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you on the outside; all that matters is what you think of yourself on the inside. Knowing yourself is the key here and being ok in your own skin. If your overweight, you can change this; if your attitude needs adjustment, figure it out.
Everyday you, and men included, need to look in the mirror and state this, “I am a person of worth. I am worthy to be loved and to love. I am beautiful/handsome just as I am.”