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Online Dating Scam: How to avoid them

Dating Scam

How do you avoid an online dating scam? There is a prevalent online dating scam where individuals steal or use, illegally, someones image(s) to make you fall in love with them online. The results of this type of scam can be devastating for the victim financially. The most impacted: 70% women 40 yrs. old plus/30% men. Women are the main targets. The current and most prevalent dating scam is the Nigerian Dating Scam.

You meet the perfect guy or girl. They say all the right things and have this endearing way that makes you feel on cloud nine. You really think you know them and they become a part of your very existence. You call them even though they are in a foreign country because what is more important true love or money? You make plans to meet and or eventually to spend your life with this person. You even make plans to relocate all in the name of true love. And of course the person you are “falling in love” with is a wealthy business person so money is of no object.

Now during the time of maybe one or two months, the love of your life, whom you have never met will tell you something like this, “I have great news! I got this new project that is going to set us up for many years. I am so excited but I have to travel to another country in order to complete the project.” or something of this caliber. Of course, you believe you have hit the jackpot because not only do you have the love of your life, you will have financial security too. You are so happy that you encourage the trip and want to be a support in any way possible.

Fast forward to the love of your life in another country. They are working hard to ensure a great future for you and maybe even the child he or she has. Then one day out of the blue you get a text or phone call from them stating they are in trouble. Their equipment did not come in and cannot clear customs; or they are hurt and in a hospital or any number of other reasons. You are the only person who can rescue them and of course, you want to help. They ask you for financial assistance; of course, this is only temporary since they will pay you back when the project is complete or whatever excuse they give. They need $5,000.00 and even though this is a hardship for you, once again you’re in love and the love of your life is in trouble; what’s money compared to this?

You clean out what little savings you have and may even call your credit card company to borrow enough funds to wire the funds to help the love of your life. This is the beginning of the never-ending cycle of you sending money. They will continue to ask for money until you have nothing left to give. When you tell them that you cannot send anymore funds they will be very upset and accuse you of not loving them enough and disappear. You are out all the money you have sent and they simply disappear. Your left with emotional heartache as well as you thought this was the love of your life.


This is the most common scam. Some men and women will spend months if not a year getting to know this person online and never really knowing if they are real or not. You wont have no clue what their agenda truly is until they ask for money. Yea, they can be pretty slick.

Best Advise:

Do not send or wire money to anyone you have never met in person. If the love of your life does not understand this, then they are not the love of your life. Get rid of them ASAP.

Do not give out credit card or bank account information to anyone. Once again if they are asking for this information and you have never met this person than you can bet its a scam to steal your money.

When meeting someone online never trust that person, even if you have talked to them for a long period of time. This is one way to protect yourself and if they are real they will respect that stance.

Do not give out personal information on social networks. I am leery of this myself since I am a public figure. It is very important that until you actually meet and get to know the person you should  keep certain parts of your life private. This includes what you share on Facebook, Google+, and any other social site that this person may also have an account with.


I am the person who gives excellent advice. Yes, I am that good! I am a writer, a mom, a Nana (yes hard to believe I know!), a professional, educated, and has the ability to look at anything objectively. I write about everything and anything. I do this because there are many facets in my life. I am also a Coffee Lover and that alone makes me awesome. ~Me

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