Posted in Dating, Healthy Living

Distorted Beauty: The Bottom Line

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There is a distorted version of beauty that not only destroys a person’s confidence but can actually destroy a person’s perception of themselves. This is so emotionally damaging to women and also to men. Why do Americans in peticular, have an ideal version of what beauty is or isn’t? I used to think I was just plain or not pretty, because I did not fit the standard image of what society thought I should be weight wise. For years, I have struggled with my weight; but this is only an outside image or the first impression of who I really am. The real beauty of me is within.

What is the ideal version of beauty? Good question eh? I asked random men what their version of beauty is and these are some of the answers I received: The ideal version of beauty is someone who is attractive physically, (no surprise there) the eyes, the smile, intelligent, giving, kind, loving, generous, and caring. Some went on to say, personality, the heart, honesty, the hair, the hands, and a willingness to assist her man.

From a womans perspective, men are a determining factor in making a woman feel beautiful. Rejection, unfaithfulness, and disloyalty from a man makes women feel like we are not pretty, skinny, or intelligent enough. Or maybe our hair is not long or short enough, or maybe we are so hurt that the personality keeps us from being loving, generous, or kind? Or maybe, and this is the crutch, we are too fat or obese or as some of you guys put it, “overly large”. Yep, this is mainly physical for guys, men cannot help this as they are visual creatures. But guess what guys, beauty fades.

From a man’s perspective, rejection from a woman can make a man feel less confident in future dating or relationship endeavors or less bold in asking a “pretty” lady out. This destroys a man self-confidence. Do you see the connection?

Why is it that men and women can’t simply see the best in each other?

Bottom Line:

Emotional health is very important to how we project ourselves to others. Because emotional health is so important, a person has to get beyond what society deems as “beautiful”.  It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you on the outside; all that matters is what you think of yourself on the inside. Knowing yourself is the key here and being ok in your own skin. If your overweight, you can change this; if your attitude needs adjustment, figure it out.

Everyday you, and men included, need to look in the mirror and state this, “I am a person of worth. I am worthy to be loved and to love. I am beautiful/handsome just as I am.”

Posted in Travel

The Grand Plaza Hotel: Brandson, MO

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Ohhhhh Branson! You are so good to me! The Grand Plaza was the second stop here in Branson Missouri and I must say I was impressed. The Official Branson Tourism Center really hooked mom and I up with this hotel along with our tickets. The price for 5 nights in this hotel along with 3 class A shows each, which are considered VIP premium, was 376.00 PP. YES it was that cheap thanks to the wonderful Branson Tourism Center.

The very first thing I noticed was the cleanness of this hotel. Walking into the hotel itself, my mother instantly said to me, “This hotel smells clean.” Actually she said that just about each time we walked out and came back in LOL. The room itself was clean, with carpeting that looked new and freshly vacuumed along with updated beds. The bathrooms were upgraded as well to include the full granite counter tops and a larger tub.

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The main entrance was appropriate for a hotel of its size. The seating area is adequate and comfy but yet is professional and sleek. The staff is friendly and very vocal in greeting you whether inside or outside the hotel. The maid service is very adequate and the housekeeping manager makes it a point to come around and actually ask if you are satisfied with your housekeeping for the day.

The breakfast bar was good. Not great but good. The hotel offered a full selection of just about everything you could want including, two different scrambled egg dishes, ham and link sausages, Belgian waffles, fruits of all kinds, yogurt’s with all the trimmings, cereals and milk, juices, and donuts along with toast and english muffins with all the trimmings. The hot breakfast was free and part of the package.

The view was amazing whether your room was facing towards the main strip on HWY 76 or on the other side to the foothills of the Ozark’s. Our room was facing the Ozark’s. and the view was awesome.

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The few negatives are that there are no vents in the bathrooms and because there is no way to open a window the humidity just sits in the room. All of the rooms are non-smoking. Now while some would say this is not an issue, it is if you’re a smoker. There are also no balcony rooms which would have been nice as the weather was very pleasant for most of the trip.

Bottom Line:

This is a great hotel and well worth the price for any amount of nights. If you find yourself in Branson Missouri, you would baud well to check out this hotel as a potential place to stay. You wont regret it especially if your on a budget.

Posted in Dating

Does your man or woman mention his ex a lot?

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Are you dating someone who continually mentions an ex? This is a huge warning sign that he or she is not over them. Here is some helpful dating tips to see if your new man or woman is still pinning for his or her ex. To keep from overusing he and she and him and her a lot I will use the male example.

Here are some signs he is still into his ex:

1. He mentions his ex a lot. This is a sure sign he is still thinking about her. It’s ok to discuss ex’s at the appropriate times especially when you are in the ‘getting to know you’ phase as long you are both sharing. But if after 3 dates he is still talking about her, there are still unresolved feelings there.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Can anyone say ‘red flag’? Make that a huge red flag! Time to say thank you, but no thank you. Next!

2. He compares you to her. This is a huge warning sign that he is still thinking about the ex. It is not ok for a man (or a woman) to compare you to another person. Each person is unique. So if he is comparing you to her then he’s not over her.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Time to move on and wave bye-bye! Quickly before your self-confidence deflate’s and you want to eat a gallon of ice cream. Trust me he is not worth the aggravation.

3. He slips up and calls you by her name. This one sign is a big ‘no no’ even though we all know how goofy a person can be in this regard. But if your man is making love to you and he mentions her name, then he is definitely thinking about her and not you. This is just plain insulting. How can anyone mention someone elses name while being intimate?

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Run away as fast as you can! Don’t even worry if you leave a shoe in the process, just run.

4. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends. If a man is not talking about you and how awesome you are to everyone then he is not thinking about you. When a man is really into you he will mention you to everyone including first and foremost, his best buddies.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Show up at one of his “buddies night out” events and dress really sexy and hot. Then introduce yourself to all his hot single friends. This will not only make him mad (or think your stalker material) but will point out you don’t need him to be introduced to his friends. Think of it as taking matters into your own hands. Plus, one of his friends could be the one for you and end up asking you out. Since he has not mentioned you to them this should not be an issue.

5. He maintains constant contact with the ex insisting that they are now only good friends. If your man is texting the ex regularly, liking her Facebook status’, calling her with ‘news’ good or otherwise in his life, then he is still pinning for her. He is maintaining contact hoping that she will eventually change her mind otherwise he would not care about her Facebook status’ or how her day is going.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: This is just plain wrong. How can anyone want to maintain communication of any form with someone who doesn’t want to be with you anymore? Not to beat a dead horse here but run and throw something at him to make your point and we’ll see if he calls you repeatedly like he does his ex.

Bottom Line:

Once its over it’s over. An individual would think a breakup is just that, but some individuals have a harder time getting over someone particularly if they were a couple for a long time; like a year or more. While breakups are not easy, its important to move forward but not at the expense of a nice person who just happens to find you attractive. Be respectful and make sure you’re really over the ex before dating someone new.

http://www.ivillage.com/9-signs-hes-not-over-his-ex/4-a-517747

http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/135528/20_signs_hes_not_over

http://www.datingwithoutdrama.com/your-guy-is-still-talking-to-his-ex-should-you-be-concerned/