Posted in Rants

Do men really want brains over beauty?

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Do men really want brains over beauty? Come on now, no man really believes that being with an intelligent/confident woman is better than being with a beautiful/hotbodied woman. Men cannot help attraction. I personally think it’s an excuse but, whatever.  I think you guys want to have your cake and eat it too but sometimes it goes way wrong for you. Which is just punishment when you choose wrong.

Emotional justice happens when a man passes you over for another women who may have a better body or she is younger or she is  just generally better looking than you only to find out that woman is a complete and utter bitch. As a fat girl I do not have this problem in regards to being beautiful. I know I am! I am humble like that. haha!

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In my past dating relationships I have met men who were only with me until someone better came along. Now while you maybe thinking, “why would you ever put up with that?” or “don’t you have more respect for yourself?” or even  “why would you even date someone like that?”

Those are all valid questions, however no woman can answer these as some men are very good at hiding their true intentions. But as for me, I figure the players out rather quickly. The first date usually tells me everything I need to know.  Some men are really good at hiding these intentions and it will take another date or two to figure out the real reason you want to date. Sex. It’s always about sex.

Dont get me wrong, sex is good. Sex is something everyone enjoys and if you don’t than there is something wrong with you. Not even being a fat girl keeps me from enjoying sex. Sex is great and should be enjoyed at any body size. Men make women feel inadequate during sex. They do this by how they react to seeing a woman in her birthday suit. They do this by making comments like “you could lose a few pounds” or “if you had bigger boobs that would be so sexy”. Its statements like that which make women feel less than adequate.

Hey guys! Just so you know, we ladies already feel inadequate enough without you making it worse. You say you want brains over beauty or that intelligence matters more than body size but this is bullshit. Plain and simple bullshit. If you really chose brains over beauty than you would already be married; you would already be happy; you would be with the one who would give you everything.

Instead you choose a hot body and a pretty face with no happiness. If you’re not happy you have no one to blame but yourself.

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Rant complete!

 

Posted in Dating

Does your man or woman mention his ex a lot?

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Are you dating someone who continually mentions an ex? This is a huge warning sign that he or she is not over them. Here is some helpful dating tips to see if your new man or woman is still pinning for his or her ex. To keep from overusing he and she and him and her a lot I will use the male example.

Here are some signs he is still into his ex:

1. He mentions his ex a lot. This is a sure sign he is still thinking about her. It’s ok to discuss ex’s at the appropriate times especially when you are in the ‘getting to know you’ phase as long you are both sharing. But if after 3 dates he is still talking about her, there are still unresolved feelings there.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Can anyone say ‘red flag’? Make that a huge red flag! Time to say thank you, but no thank you. Next!

2. He compares you to her. This is a huge warning sign that he is still thinking about the ex. It is not ok for a man (or a woman) to compare you to another person. Each person is unique. So if he is comparing you to her then he’s not over her.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Time to move on and wave bye-bye! Quickly before your self-confidence deflate’s and you want to eat a gallon of ice cream. Trust me he is not worth the aggravation.

3. He slips up and calls you by her name. This one sign is a big ‘no no’ even though we all know how goofy a person can be in this regard. But if your man is making love to you and he mentions her name, then he is definitely thinking about her and not you. This is just plain insulting. How can anyone mention someone elses name while being intimate?

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Run away as fast as you can! Don’t even worry if you leave a shoe in the process, just run.

4. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends. If a man is not talking about you and how awesome you are to everyone then he is not thinking about you. When a man is really into you he will mention you to everyone including first and foremost, his best buddies.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: Show up at one of his “buddies night out” events and dress really sexy and hot. Then introduce yourself to all his hot single friends. This will not only make him mad (or think your stalker material) but will point out you don’t need him to be introduced to his friends. Think of it as taking matters into your own hands. Plus, one of his friends could be the one for you and end up asking you out. Since he has not mentioned you to them this should not be an issue.

5. He maintains constant contact with the ex insisting that they are now only good friends. If your man is texting the ex regularly, liking her Facebook status’, calling her with ‘news’ good or otherwise in his life, then he is still pinning for her. He is maintaining contact hoping that she will eventually change her mind otherwise he would not care about her Facebook status’ or how her day is going.

Kell Kell’s Take on This: This is just plain wrong. How can anyone want to maintain communication of any form with someone who doesn’t want to be with you anymore? Not to beat a dead horse here but run and throw something at him to make your point and we’ll see if he calls you repeatedly like he does his ex.

Bottom Line:

Once its over it’s over. An individual would think a breakup is just that, but some individuals have a harder time getting over someone particularly if they were a couple for a long time; like a year or more. While breakups are not easy, its important to move forward but not at the expense of a nice person who just happens to find you attractive. Be respectful and make sure you’re really over the ex before dating someone new.

http://www.ivillage.com/9-signs-hes-not-over-his-ex/4-a-517747

http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/135528/20_signs_hes_not_over

http://www.datingwithoutdrama.com/your-guy-is-still-talking-to-his-ex-should-you-be-concerned/