Posted in Dating, Rants

Dating Rant 1

lying

Show me an honest male and I will show you a woman who can keep her mouth shut-HA! Please! Do not fool yourself into thinking that people tell the truth. I have been single many years and each time I start “looking” for a male I am confronted with the realization that people just cannot tell the truth. Yes, this is about my personal experience from an online website that I find highly amusing at times as the men can get pretty creative in their “story telling”.

This morning I get on my popular “online dating” site wanting to see if a guy I liked got my message regarding texting and the exchanging of phone numbers.  I gave this man my number since I liked him so far, he was local, we have communicated for a while, and there was (I thought) a genuine interest. This was on the 4th of July.

Now this morning, I get a message from him saying “sorry I lost your number”.  How do you lose a number when it was in an email “type of message” on the site that confirms any kind of deletion, before permanent deletion? LOL  REALLY? I mean come on dude! I know from personal experience that when a man is really interested (and is serious) he will NOT “lose” a womans phone number. Plus, I asked my coworker, after telling him the story, what he thought. He replied by stating, “Men don’t lose phone numbers of women they are really interested in. It’s a fact.”

You want to know what I think happened? There are two scenarios here.

One scenario is that you are “talking” with many woman and you met someone who you really want to get to know (and I bet you didn’t lose their number by accident, of course). Now in this scenario, why would you keep messaging me asking me questions and flirting etc..? Why not just say to me, “You’re a beautiful and nice person, but I have met someone else and would like to get to know them.” It’s really that simple.

The second scenario and most likely one, is that you already have a significant other, or you are married. Now in this scenario if I find out that you lied to me about being single, I am DONE with you. This happens immediately. I do not tolerate liars. Communication stops immediately.

I dated a man a few years ago who said he was single with no kids. We went out on 3 dates total. On each date he would want to get “frisky” (at my place, but never at his).  However, I wont get intimate with someone until I know them VERY well and I have met his friends and family. Well, right after the 3rd date I received a phone call from a woman identifying herself as this mans WIFE. Yes, HIS WIFE. Needless to say, me and her had a very long conversation about her husband and his dating habits. I told her everything regarding my experience with her husband even though she cried a lot. He also had 2 kids…sad someone would deny even their kids.

I can’t stand men who lie…where are the HONEST MEN?

Posted in Rants

Liar Liar Pants on Fire!

Lying

“Liar liar pants on fire your nose is stuck in a telephone wire!”  LOL We all heard this as kids and we all probably said this on many occasions. Sometimes to be funny and other times because we are upset we caught someone in a lie. What about the lie you tell when asked, “Yes hunny, those pants don’t make you look fat” or “No that new hair style looks great on you.” When the reality is your boyfriend/husband thinks you are fat in anything you wear but wouldn’t dare tell you the truth or that co-worker can’t stand your new hair cut, but because you are their boss, they simply feed your vanity.

Are you able to tell the truth?

Do you find it hard to be honest with people?

Are white lies acceptable?

Simply being honest requires integrity. Just think if everyone told the truth there would be no drama, our government would be unproductive, and our jails would have honest criminals. As if! As a society we thrive on drama, we expect our government to be dishonest, and criminals believe they are always innocent and treated unjustly. Ok so lets take this to a more personal level. How about the wife that cheats on her husband? Is it ok to simply do as one wishes in a marriage and not tell the other person or is it a lie of omission? What if you never found out they cheated? Would it change your relationship? No, life would go on as normal…until you found out.

White lies are just as bad but don’t really hurt as bad if the person finds out that you were not as honest. examples of this include the true color of your hair or telling someone how much you “don’t weigh” LOL Be honest ladies, we NEVER ever tell a man our true weight. One could say white lies only hurt in that they lead to larger lies. I mean if you can’t be honest on a smaller scale how can you be honest on a grander scale?

The simple truth is this; we all lie in some form or fashion. Some are professionals at it like our governing bodies (who would have thought LOL) and others are simply trying to keep from hurting those they profess to care about the most.

Bottom line: when you lie you hurt yourself and those around you. Learn to tell the truth (yep it takes practice). Start with being honest with yourself.