Posted in Dating, Healthy Living

Distorted Beauty: The Bottom Line

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There is a distorted version of beauty that not only destroys a person’s confidence but can actually destroy a person’s perception of themselves. This is so emotionally damaging to women and also to men. Why do Americans in peticular, have an ideal version of what beauty is or isn’t? I used to think I was just plain or not pretty, because I did not fit the standard image of what society thought I should be weight wise. For years, I have struggled with my weight; but this is only an outside image or the first impression of who I really am. The real beauty of me is within.

What is the ideal version of beauty? Good question eh? I asked random men what their version of beauty is and these are some of the answers I received: The ideal version of beauty is someone who is attractive physically, (no surprise there) the eyes, the smile, intelligent, giving, kind, loving, generous, and caring. Some went on to say, personality, the heart, honesty, the hair, the hands, and a willingness to assist her man.

From a womans perspective, men are a determining factor in making a woman feel beautiful. Rejection, unfaithfulness, and disloyalty from a man makes women feel like we are not pretty, skinny, or intelligent enough. Or maybe our hair is not long or short enough, or maybe we are so hurt that the personality keeps us from being loving, generous, or kind? Or maybe, and this is the crutch, we are too fat or obese or as some of you guys put it, “overly large”. Yep, this is mainly physical for guys, men cannot help this as they are visual creatures. But guess what guys, beauty fades.

From a man’s perspective, rejection from a woman can make a man feel less confident in future dating or relationship endeavors or less bold in asking a “pretty” lady out. This destroys a man self-confidence. Do you see the connection?

Why is it that men and women can’t simply see the best in each other?

Bottom Line:

Emotional health is very important to how we project ourselves to others. Because emotional health is so important, a person has to get beyond what society deems as “beautiful”.  It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of you on the outside; all that matters is what you think of yourself on the inside. Knowing yourself is the key here and being ok in your own skin. If your overweight, you can change this; if your attitude needs adjustment, figure it out.

Everyday you, and men included, need to look in the mirror and state this, “I am a person of worth. I am worthy to be loved and to love. I am beautiful/handsome just as I am.”

Posted in Blogging Basics

Posting an Image

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You have chosen your online hosting site and have added social media outlets to your blog. Now let’s start discussing how to post interesting or awesome blogs. I am a ‘virgin blogger’ and learning myself but one of the most important things I have learned right away is to use images in each and every post.

Pictures or images are VERY important when getting an audience to check out your blog. A picture enhances your writing and makes people want to read your blog. The pic used in this blog is my own personal pic that I took of a rose. Awesome pic isn’t it?

In WordPress when you upload the image into the post, you can click on the image and add your info to link to your website only. This means that the image is only associated with your website and can be tracked as such. This is great for bloggers who like Pinterest.

Why add an image to each of your blog posting?

1.  Images strengthen your blog posting.

Every blogger wants their content to be memorable. Posting an image with your post helps keep this memorable experience in the reader’s mind. Which will make the reader return for future blog postings. This is the most important aspect since you cannot create a following if your blogs are forgettable.

2.  Images help in Search Engine Optimization or SEO standings.

All bloggers want great SEO standings with Google. Images help with these standings by linking the picture to your specific site. This makes your blog easier to find in Google search. All bloggers want to be easily found in Google; am I right or am I RIGHT?

Things to remember when using images that you find online.

Always give credit to the picture where you found the image. WordPress has Zemanta which is always bringing up links and images that you can use as reference in the post. By simply clicking on the image in Zemanta the credit is already added and put into the post. This is another reason I chose WordPress for my blogging home, they simply make everything easy.

Do not use an image that could potentially offend someone. The reason for this is self-explanatory. If you offend someone because you posted an image he or she finds offensive then they may stop following your blog or never visit your blog again. It is really important that your images be as neutral as possible.

Make sure the image fits the blog. What this means is if you’re posting about travel, ensure the image is related to traveling. If the blog is health related, ensure the image is health related.  I think you get the point on this one.

Links to “License Free” Image Use:

http://www.morguefile.com/

http://www.sxc.hu/

http://john.do/images/