Posted in Dating, Rants

You lie like a rug!

Yep you suck! I waited a few days before posting this blog because I am respectful and also because I wanted to give this man a chance to apologize for his behavior. However, no apology has been forthcoming so as they say in church, “the truth will set you free”. LOL You suck and you know who you are!

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I recently went to meet someone. You know the story, you meet online (who doesn’t anymore?) and I started talking to this goodlooking man (who I thought was an awesome guy). He told me he didn’t care I was a plus size girl and that size is not a factor for him nor does it determine beauty in “his eyes”. He said “beauty is truly within”. LOL right!

This man even asked for recent pics which I sent to him gladly. He told me he couldn’t wait to meet me because I was beautiful. He told me he would be setting “the bar high” and that no other man would or could compare.  LOL OK! We talked every night for hours all week and then he invited me to his place for the weekend. I accepted. I was finally excited to be meeting someone I thought was special.

When I arrived at his place I was excited. I mean after seeking for so long this might be the man for me. I was wrong! Over the course of the weekend I learned you lie like a rug. Yep, I said it, you lie like a rug!

When I showed up at his place I did not bring my stuff in and instead wanted to ensure him and I were “ok” upon meeting. I knew that if I simply just waited I would have my answer soon enough. He was happy and outgoing and said he was glad I was finally here. I told him the same and I knew then this would be a great weekend. I also stated I did not bring my stuff in until I knew he wanted me there as I knew I could simply get in my car and go home. He asked, yes ASKED, me to bring my stuff in and I did. 

Needless to say, this weekend turned out to be an eye opener for me. It finally drives home the fact that I am usually right about “certain” men being players. Yep, deny it all you want but you are a player. This man was just smoother at it because I had no idea he was not even attracted to me. It makes me cringe to think men like this exist. You SUCK!

I will not go on, as I just found out, by him personally, that he was not ever attracted to me. You see I just got through texting him where he admitted that he was not sexually attracted to me yet he sure seemed the opposite during my visit. I guess my indication should have been the standard for this “type of man” who are usually PLAYERS.

And of course, I am right. You are a player! Dating has changed, this is for sure, but why lie like the rug you are? There is a reason you are alone “Mr. I Don’t want my heart-broken”.  Duh! LOL and its laughable that you honestly think anyone of quality would stay with you being this way. You SUCK!

Yea, I am a little pissed and I have every right to be. I did not lie and I was true to everything I said and did. I do not play games and I communicate effectively. So what’s your excuse? Oh wait, you have none! You are a liar and a player. You will get exactly what you give; NOTHING. You do indeed SUCK!

Bonus Rant:

A few previous men I have dated recently contacted me. I am sick of you telling me, “I am the one that got away.”

I am responding to all of you with this, “I am not the the one who got away. I let you go.”

Good riddence!

By the way, you SUCK too!

Posted in Dating

How do you know if a man is truly interested in you?

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Red flags (Photo credit: rvw)

How do you know if a man is truly interested in you? What are the signs? What are the red flags? Well, I have it from a reliable source; yep, the guest blogger is a man! This man is a friend of mine who is also a blogger and resides in the local Nashville Tennessee area. I asked him to guest blog on my website because I wanted a man’s perspective on spotting the signs a man is really interested in a woman. The guest blogger asked to remain anonymous for personal reasons.

Here is what he provided in regard to knowing if a man is truly interested in you….

1. You get texts or phone calls during traditional ‘date nights’.

If he’s texting you on Friday night at 9PM he’s letting you know that he’s not seeing anyone else and he’s checking to make sure that you aren’t either. In these instances, make sure that he has your complete attention. This is easier done through phone calls where the communication is instant. However, if 15 minutes lapses between his text and your response, he may take that as your with someone else, or you are just not interested in him.

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 2. Timing

If you’re the first text or phone call that he makes in the morning and the last one he sends at night, that means you’re on his mind. If you know he’s going through a stressful time at work or in his family life and he’s still keeping in steady contact with you, this means that he values you and wants your support. This is a good thing.

3. Consistency

Men that are truly interested in you will move mountains to be with you. Period. If you meet a guy and he’s extremely receptive to spending time with you one week and the next week he isn’t, that’s a HUGE red flag. It means that he’s moved on physically and mentally. Yes, there may be legitimate excuses (“My mom has been sick” or “It’s been a really tough week at work.”), but things like that should be explained to you beforehand or as soon as possible. To not do so in itself is a red flag. It means that he doesn’t think you’re important enough to keep in the loop.

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4. Respecting you or your schedule. 

When you first started seeing each other, he only had eyes for you. Now, he visually molest’s every other woman without even trying to hide it from you. When you first started seeing each other, he gladly worked around your schedule so he could spend time with you. Now, he completely ignores the fact that you work 3rd shift and sleep during the day or you have to drop your kids off at daycare or you’re in the middle of furthering your education etc…This is more than a loss of interest on his part. It’s an actual loss of caring, and it’s a HUGE red flag.

Bottom Line:

When a man is interested and I mean truly interested he will text, he will call, he will want to know what you’re doing and when you’re doing it. Sounds sort of stalkerly LOL but it’s simply how it is in the realm of attraction. If he is not texting, calling, or wanting to know everything about you, he is simply not into you.

NEXT! (yelled really loud LOL)