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How do you know if a man is truly interested in you?

Red flags
Red flags (Photo credit: rvw)

How do you know if a man is truly interested in you? What are the signs? What are the red flags? Well, I have it from a reliable source; yep, the guest blogger is a man! This man is a friend of mine who is also a blogger and resides in the local Nashville Tennessee area. I asked him to guest blog on my website because I wanted a man’s perspective on spotting the signs a man is really interested in a woman. The guest blogger asked to remain anonymous for personal reasons.

Here is what he provided in regard to knowing if a man is truly interested in you….

1. You get texts or phone calls during traditional ‘date nights’.

If he’s texting you on Friday night at 9PM he’s letting you know that he’s not seeing anyone else and he’s checking to make sure that you aren’t either. In these instances, make sure that he has your complete attention. This is easier done through phone calls where the communication is instant. However, if 15 minutes lapses between his text and your response, he may take that as your with someone else, or you are just not interested in him.

man Texting

 2. Timing

If you’re the first text or phone call that he makes in the morning and the last one he sends at night, that means you’re on his mind. If you know he’s going through a stressful time at work or in his family life and he’s still keeping in steady contact with you, this means that he values you and wants your support. This is a good thing.

3. Consistency

Men that are truly interested in you will move mountains to be with you. Period. If you meet a guy and he’s extremely receptive to spending time with you one week and the next week he isn’t, that’s a HUGE red flag. It means that he’s moved on physically and mentally. Yes, there may be legitimate excuses (“My mom has been sick” or “It’s been a really tough week at work.”), but things like that should be explained to you beforehand or as soon as possible. To not do so in itself is a red flag. It means that he doesn’t think you’re important enough to keep in the loop.


4. Respecting you or your schedule. 

When you first started seeing each other, he only had eyes for you. Now, he visually molest’s every other woman without even trying to hide it from you. When you first started seeing each other, he gladly worked around your schedule so he could spend time with you. Now, he completely ignores the fact that you work 3rd shift and sleep during the day or you have to drop your kids off at daycare or you’re in the middle of furthering your education etc…This is more than a loss of interest on his part. It’s an actual loss of caring, and it’s a HUGE red flag.

Bottom Line:

When a man is interested and I mean truly interested he will text, he will call, he will want to know what you’re doing and when you’re doing it. Sounds sort of stalkerly LOL but it’s simply how it is in the realm of attraction. If he is not texting, calling, or wanting to know everything about you, he is simply not into you.

NEXT! (yelled really loud LOL)